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Tips for Putting Your Best Self Forward Online
Writing about yourself and putting your photo and life story
online can be extremely difficult --guaranteed to make you feel
a little self-conscious and silly and downright scared! Well, just think of it as one of the trials you need to complete to get to the holy grail (that's the perfect date, of course, not eternal life). You've got to slay a lot of dragons to get to the princess
and kiss a lot of frogs to get to the prince. So, here are some
mighty tips for for writing a truly ace profile without breaking a sweat.
1. Make A List Of "Stuff I Like" - If you have
total writer's block and every sentence sounds dreadful, take
the easy way out and make a list titled 'Stuff I Like'. This
start is recommend it as the easiest way to form a snapshot-in-words of unique, wonderful, sexy, dateable you. It's also quite a nice way of making yourself feel good as it reminds you what makes you happy. And hurrah for that.
2. Get a pal or family member to write you a list of random
"date" questions. Sounds silly, but everyone from job
interview coaches to dating gurus to sports coaches tell us that
running practice trials helps to improve performance at crunch
time. Think of theserandom as springboards to help you be as creative and funny as you can be.
For example answer the question:
What was your childhood nickname? What is your favorite food? What was the
most embarrassing thing you ever did? You get the picture.
3. Write a few good sentences about yourself, as if you
were filling out a job application for a job you really, really
want or a sweepstakes you are determined to win!
Ok, so now we come to the next few points. These points focus on how to say what you say
in a natural way for a profile.
Don't Be Negative Why? Because negativity is not sexy. And, although a good angry rant is always enjoyable, it's only funny when it's delivered in the right medium - and an online dating profile isn't that medium. No one wants to date a negative person. Sentences like "I can't believe I'm internet dating..." don't test well. Anyone
who is themselves part of the online dating environment, who us reading your profile,
will not think you're weird for trying it. They're doing it too, remember?
4. Avoid Cliché -
If you describe yourself as someone who likes "is easygoing, likes people, likes
going to the movies, and hanging out with (your) friends," then frankly, you sound like everyone I've ever met. Including my mother.
Make the effort to stand out from the crowd.
5. Don't Share Too Much. Your online dating profile is
designed to give the reader an alluring taste of who you are,
what you are like, and why you're so special. It's not really
the place to unzip your chest, pluck out your heart and soul,
and lay them naked and pulsating on the online dating operating
table. Don't reveal too much of your thoughts about the horrors
of love, the capriciousness of dating, or the dastardly nature
of men (or women). Many online profiles have WAY too much
information. Keep some stuff for later.
6. Be Yourself... But Better Naturally - Everybody says
this, but they say it because it's true. To maximize your online
dating pulling power, you've got to write a really top-notch
profile that shows you to be a seriously hot property, but
naturally. That means being the best possible version of
yourself: the well-dressed, funny, impressive, adorable,
intelligent, flirtatious, warm, attractive, self-assured,
memorable YOU.
So be a flirt. Be coy. Be confident. Be unusual. Smirk, frown
questioningly, arch your eyebrow and pout your lip - all through
the medium of words, of course, and get that great-looking photo
out there. If you do not get great dates, you have only yourself
to blame. A fun personal profile and a realistic, but attractive
photo of yourself will go a long, long way.
7. Watch the exclamation points!!!! One or two throughout
the entire profile is all right, , but more than that makes you sound breathless and overexcited
and desperate, and that's not good. The Fonz wouldn't use lots of exclamation marks,
for those of you who remember The Fonz.)
8. Watch your spelling. Really. An online profile is not
the place to get lazy with your language.
9. Take time with your online photo. Remember unless and until a
potential date meets you, you ARE your profile photo. If you are
serious about being successful at online dating, then
you need to give yourself the best chance possible and put
yourself in the best possible visual light.. A great photo is
the way to attract the best people and leave your dating days
behind you.
Well, we hope this helps. The last tip is to just force yourself
to sit down and get the wretched thing over and done with.
Thanks for reading!
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